Consent Culture

Does asking kill the mood?

Does asking kill the mood?

Perhaps the most common objection to practicing consent is rooted in the perception that asking someone to kiss or touch them will “kill the mood” or is somehow not romantic, as if being clear about what’s happening between two people makes it less sexy. 

If consent is not explicit, then it goes into the unspoken realm of implied assumption.

The Fuzziness of Sexual Coercion

The Fuzziness of Sexual Coercion

In a recent intimate encounter, the man I was making out with firmly placed my hand on his cock soon after we began to kiss.  I moved my hand away.  He moved my hand back to his cock.  I moved my hand to his chest.  He again moved my hand back to his cock, each time with a little more force of motion.

After the third time, I gave in.

This is not consensual. This is a form of sexual coercion where someone uses manipulation, pressure or force to get what they want.