There are many ways that computers mimic us. Our brains are the OG original central processing unit. We run programs, both hardware in the form of our DNA, and software in the form of our beliefs. And it’s our beliefs that shape our “default settings.”
A couple years ago, the issue of sexual assault came up across several communities in Portland, naming at least four different men as violators. It was like a sexual assault bomb went off in the city and many conversations followed, groups formed, and people grappled with what to do.
It was heavy, intense, and uncomfortable. I participated in several conversations, and facilitated a few. In each conversation, what I came to call “the rise to the defense of men” would inevitably take over. Early on, someone, usually a man, would interject something to the effect of “but all men aren’t bad.”